The Energetic Boundaries Course

Have you been on a healing journey, but found yourself frustrated with difficulties in creating the change you desire and blaming yourself for your lack of success?

Energy Restructuring is a pioneering methodology that creates a new framework for the emerging field of Energy Psychology and Energy Medicine. It offers a new model of energy psychology methods - “Healing Without Effort”. By drawing on universal laws underlying energetic, metaphysical and scientific principles it redefines and stretch out the limits of what is truly possible in the existing psychological, medical and healing modalities. When healing methods are based on universal principles and laws, the issues you are facing with can be resolved effortlessly and gracefully without incurring additional stress either on you or your body. This system creates a synthesis of the array of teachings from the West and the East, science and mysticism, religion and psychology. It is grounded in the 20 years of personal and professional and research into growth and transformation.

The Energetic Boundaries Course will introduce you to this exhilarating new paradigm of effortless healing in a way that is both theoretical and experiential. It offers a new approach to viewing the self, the healing process and psychological therapeutic techniques from the spatial perspective of the energetic space that surrounds you – your Energetic Boundary.

This course leads you step by step to greater awareness of your own energy and the energy around you in your business and personal relationships in everyday life. The profound insights you gain are built on theory, stories and illustrations that turn the difficult concept of non-verbal energetic interactions into a skill easily and naturally accessible to all.

See the Store page to purchase the course textbook, "Energetic Boundaries: Healing Without Effort"

There are three levels of the Energetic Boundaries course, Level I, Level II, and Level III, as well as an advanced course. Each of the levels is taught as a weekend workshop, and as a once-a-week 3 hour class, spead over 5 weeks.

See Yuliya's Schedule for details of the dates, locations & cost of upcoming classes and weekend workshops.

Yuliya, techniques I learned in your course will dramatically change the way I live my life and treat my patients. I have learned how to protect myself and how to recover when I feel diminished and invaded. I have also learned that I cannot afford to lose so much energy every time I treat some who is very needy by giving everything I have. I have applied your skills and they have helped me give the best possible therapy to my clients and to conserve energy at the same time. You have identified skills that novice and experienced caregivers need to survive in the healthcare field.

It is said that if you give a man a fish, he eats for a day, but if you teach a man to fish, he eats for a lifetime. This course has taught me how to fish.”

Thank you! I look forward to further opportunities to learn,

R.W. Acupuncturist

It can be difficult to get used to observing the non-verbal phenomenon of energetic boundaries in physical interactions. But exercises given in this course enabled me to pay more attention to energy around me so that I can recognize energetically when something does not work and to avoid it more quickly. I am more able now to protect myself preventatively and to stop energy loss before I am drained. I have been able to improve my sense of self. With the tools I have learned I can now establish strong boundaries and own my power. I am less affected by people’s negative moods or vibes. I also have found that I am less affected by judgment and criticism. This course gave me skills to recover from stressful and traumatic situations, so that the effects tend to stay with me for a much shorter period of time.”

C.W.

”I am glad that I have these tools to deal with my life and especially with my patients. If something goes wrong in my interactions, I can now step back and heal my patients and myself. All the energy manipulation exercises were useful, but being able to reclaim power lost to a person in ones past, from a situation long ago is very powerful indeed. I am also glad that I can finally heal my past. I am looking forward to use what I learned in this course all my life.”

S.P.

• Greater awareness of your own energy and the energy around you in your business and personal relationships.
• Skills to tune in and recognize energetically when something does not work and to prevent potentially stressful or traumatic situations from happening.
• Skills to recover from stressful and traumatic situations that you could not avoid.
• Ability to reclaim and occupy your energetic space fully.
• Connect to the infinite potential of what you are and experience your connection to the universal whole.
• Ability to heal your past. You will learn how to reclaim power and energy lost to people or situations in the past.
• Skills to become less affected by people’s negative moods; feel safe and retain confidence when faced with judgment and criticism.
• Ability to learn to make deeper connections with people and your own emotions.
• Ability to affect people and situations at a distance.
• Skills to absorb without fear of losing yourself the qualities you need from various sources – nature, animals, friends or stranger, memories of the past, and even produce yourself in your body the qualities you need for you healing and well-being.
• Ways to reverse diminishment caused by traumas or chronic illness.
• Knowledge of how to turn your interactions with people and situation into a source of energetic gain, rather then loss.

Course Structure

The Energetic Boundaries Course is a fifteen session training in the Energy Restructuring Methodology. It is tailored after the core curriculum course offered at NESA (New England School of Acupuncture). It is based on the teaching material from my new "Energetic Boundaries" textbook, where theory, stories and illustrations are offered in a way that makes the difficult concept of no-verbal energetic interactions and universal principles easily and naturally accessible to all.

The course is divided into three levels, each consisting of 5 classes. A written assignment is given out in each class, and students will receive comments on their assignments. Advancing to the next level is contingent on completion of all the assignments. This will ensure that participants acquire strong theoretical and practical skills for applying the principles they learn in everyday life as well as ensuring that they gain experience in healing old traumas they were unable to heal before.

The list of the chapters to be used for the course are:

1. Energetic Boundaries
2. Reclaiming Energy Field
3. Sacred Space
4. Reclaiming Power
5. Energy Scaling
6. Energetic Transference
7. Energetic Absorption

Below is a more detailed description of the contents of the chapters. In general, two or three classes will be spent on each chapter. Additional material will also be provided that is beyond what is included in the textbook.

Textbook Contents

1. Energetic Boundaries

The notion of a boundary is very much culturally defined, since the norm for what is considered a proper boundary varies from culture to culture. In this course will explore the concept of a personal boundary as an Energy Boundary formed by a Human Energy Field. We will turn to the subject of Sacred Geometry and examine the universal geometric representation of the energetic boundary as a circular space around the body as well its symbolic meaning as a circle of protection. We will also learn that the Human Energy Field as an energetic boundary functions as a semi-permeable selective membrane. Traditionally, boundaries are defined as if they were walls to be fortified and defended, and the comfort zone is determined in terms whether your boundaries have been breached or not. Instead we will approach energetic boundaries as places of transaction as well of definition. We will discover how energy flows within a field, and from one field to another, interacting with other fields in a dynamic process. That information exchange between and among those fields takes place at all levels, from the intercellular, to the interpersonal, to the universal. And that on all those levels the human field does not merely reacts, interacts, and transacts; it also dynamically makes choices.

Most of us do not occupy our field fully. We claim only a fraction of our energetic space and therefore live and function in a diminished state. Just think about it! If everything that you have accomplished so far in your life was achieved using only a fraction of you field, what could you have actually become if you occupied your energy field fully? Indeed, many of us live with a strong sense that we are not nearly what we could possibly be. We are most protected, fulfilled and free when our whole self is active and involved, not a mere fragment of it.

The notion of a larger or a smaller field in relation to the same person generally refers to how much of that space is actually occupied by a person's energy. Being self assured expands the energy in your field beyond its normal physical dimensions. Trauma and illness diminish the extent of energy in the field. These and other principles will be demonstrated through experiential exercises in the course.

• Discover where your personal energetic space begins and ends.
• Learn what prevents you from occupying your energy field fully
• Acquire the ability to sense energetic boundaries of friends and strangers and gain information about the energetic dynamics between you and another person.
• Find out how you react when your space is invaded or threatened – resist, withdraw or freeze helplessly.
• Learn how to uphold your energetic space when challenged.
• Assure comfort of your personal space in uncomfortable proximity to other people in social situations such as elevators, public transportation, movie theaters or airplanes.

“At the beginning of this workshop I felt uncertain where I ended and the rest of the world began. I had a difficult time determining when I felt someone cross over into my space and how exactly their energy affected me. It is very interesting now being more aware of the boundaries, of how I approach people and of how close I can let other people get to me without becoming anxious and overwhelmed.”

“When I was trying to find the edge of someone's field from a distance, they inevitably made eye contact. This really confirms to me that whether you are "aware" of your boundaries or not, it's still feeding information to your body and you act on it.”

2. Reclaiming Energy Field

We generally lack any kind of reference to a deeper way of understanding the universal principles that determine our relationship to our own boundaries and to those of others. The difficulty we experience in protecting our energetic space occurs because our reactions are based on earlier trauma and conditioning. The universal principle of Energy Field Ownership reveals the deeper meaning behind the right we hold to own and protect our space.

We will turn to metaphors from Kabala and other spiritual traditions to discover this fundamental Universal Law - that no other force in the Universe can inherently have more power over your energetic space then you do. In other words the energetic space was carved out for the soul that inhibits it, to hold all the energy that the soul emanates, and all the beneficial energies it gathers for its advancement. Your energetic space was not inherently created to hold someone else’s energies that do not benefit you. Everyone else must dwell in the energetic spaces that they own, and any invasion of you field is a violation of this higher principle.

Many of us, especially those in the healing profession, have a desire to connect with others deeply and meaningfully. The energetic rule is that we can only afford merging with others as much as we have mastered the ability to separate ourselves from others. Only after we learn how to define ourselves completely, can we merge with others, and not get lost. Therefore we need to practice the discipline of separating from others for the purpose of gathering ourselves into our own field, to find out who we are, so that then we could truly merge with others in a way that is safe and joyful.

Invocation of the Energy Field Ownership principle wakes us up in a very powerful way to the sacred right and responsibility we have to protect our bodies and the energy field from what is harmful for us. It also gives us freedom to inhabit our energetic space fully.

• Regain the ability to inhabit your energy field fully.
• Regain control over you energetic space.
• Reclaim responsibility to protect your body and energy field from anything that is harmful to you.
• Learn to expel from your energetic space anything that is not beneficial or that is foreign.

“I now feel like I can defend my space because, believe it or not, I never knew it was allowed. My impulse in the past has always been to tolerate the intrusion, or to move away at the first polite opportunity (to avoid hurting someone's feelings). What this defending exercise did for me was to show me that I had a right to defend my space. That led me to think I not only had a right to defend it, I had a responsibility to defend it against anything that might not be beneficial to me. It gave me a new feeling of freedom and "self".”

3. Sacred Space

Human beings as spiritual seekers are trying to infuse their daily lives with a heightened consciousness of the sacred. We are spiritually driven to connect with the sacred within ourselves and other people. We also long to rediscover the sacredness of our bodies, rarely questioning the definition of the term “sacred”, since we hold it as something that is self-evident, a kind of truism.

To understand this term, we will examine the universal principle of a Sacred Space based on Kabalistic teachings that go deeply in pondering the true nature of sacredness. We will learn about the spiritual meaning that this profound principle holds and how it can be invoked in our personal life in relationship to our bodies, our traumas and our beliefs. This will also bring us to better understand of such concepts as sacred knowledge or sacred sex.

The three major aspects of the principle of Sacred Space taught in this course will open a way for you to connect to the miracles and magic in life by offering an approach of how to navigate the fine line between the physical and the mystery domain. It will extend your process of healing and being towards the infinite possibilities of a sacred realm.

In these times of the Catholic sex abused scandal, the Sacred Space is a vital principle that also restores the lost wholeness to all those who are seeking to become free from feeling broken and victimized by others. When we are overcome by someone else’s dysfunction, we become convinced that from then on what had happened changed us permanently. The Sacred Space principle reveals the universal truth of how regardless of the severity of the trauma, nothing and no one can diminish us permanently. If you have a hard time forgiving yourself for what happened to you, invoking this principle also enables you to stop self blame by shifting the responsibility for the trauma and reverting the wounding back to the abuser who caused it.

Invoking the Sacred Space takes us deeper into the experience of becoming more human, by occupying greater dimensions of our entire selves, our bodies, our hearts, our joys, our creativity, our intelligence and our imagination.

You will learn to:

• Go beyond the threshold of the knowable and believable, from the ordinary to the sacred in your life, work, relationships, and healing.
• Experience your connection to the universal whole.
• Connect to the infinite potential of what you are, your very essence.
• Reverse diminishment caused by traumas or chronic illness.
• Feel safe and confident in situations that can potentially diminish you.
• Invoke and hold the Sacred Space principle for others to create a deeper sense of relaxation and connection.

“When I practice holding Sacred Space for myself I felt more confident and safe in this world.”

“I really needed to discover the Sacred Space principle. It is probably long overdue for me to reclaim myself again in every way. I have left bits and pieces of myself behind with the abuse that I’ve suffered in the past in my relationship. I am in the process of calling all of myself back to the present. I remember hearing the phrase, “broken, but still whole” and that’s me.”

”When I invoked the Sacred Space principle during an important conversation, I believe that my message was received on a deeper and more important level without needing the all the words to explain it.”

4. Reclaiming Power

The ability to hold power determines whether you can maintain control over your environment or get things done. Often the power is described as some object that can be had or lost or taken away and this understanding of power is not just a metaphor. Indeed, power can be transferred from person to person, situation to situation, nation to nation. Loss of power due to traumatic events leads to disempowerment and can have a devastating effect on one’s health and well-being.

Losing power is not the same as losing energy. When you lose energy to a person or a situation, you can recover it at some point by resting or simply disengaging from what drains you. Once power is lost it generally does not return unless explicitly reclaimed, and the sign that power was lost is a sense of feeling frozen and unable to act, a sense of extreme helplessness.

The Reclaiming Power process presented here is more then invocation or a prayer. It is an energetic transaction that is both tangible and specific and it is based on affirmation of a Universal Energy Ownership principle that lies at the core of our being. This process offers a set of spiritual instructions that will teach you how to consciously manage your energy and power. It will enable you to learn what and who is drawing power from you, and instruct you in how to direct and re-integrate the lost power back in you body.

Claiming your power is fundamental to having a healthy, materially successful and spiritually balanced life.

You will learn that you can:

• Reclaim power and energy lost to people or situations in the past.
• Do it without having to fully revisit and re-experience painful memories
• Deal successfully with situations and people that used to make you “freeze” helplessly.

I liked the principle and enjoyed speaking the Reclaiming Power affirmation because the words are powerful and strongly meaningful in the context of visualizing a situation where you have lost a piece of yourself – it almost gives a sense of regaining control of a past situation, even though the outcome does not change. I particularly liked the image of “…reabsorbing and reintegrating the power back in the way it was intended to be if it had not left” I liked the visual image of reabsorbing the energy, and the concept of the body recognizing it and accepting it back”

“Owning my power has always been a challenge to me. The Reclaiming Power process helped me to define my boundaries in everyday life. It has made me feel safer in relationships and more confident with everyone I meet.”

5. Energy Scaling

Energy Scaling is a methodology for “tuning into the same wavelength” as other people, situations or your own emotions to find out what is truly going on and create change harmoniously. It is based on the fact that the human energy system has a built-in resonance-based mechanism to deal with complex situations. If we learn to tune in to our innate ability for energetic scaling then we can stop worrying about what we need to do in a particular situation and allow our energy field to do what it knows how to do naturally - to go directly to find a “matching wavelength” in any given situation. Through scaling you will learn to make deeper connections to people and to your own emotions.

What can you get from learning this method?

• Scaling can help you identify problems in a relationship. It can also help you find a match between you and another person, bringing about an experience of mutual comfort.
• Energy Scaling can be used for getting in touch and healing internal emotional states as well as states of physical discomfort.
• Energy scaling is not limited to real time interactions. Distant scaling can be carried out equally well with a person who is absent.
• Scaling can be used to tune into situations. It enables you to handle a situation that is ongoing, as well as a situation that has not happened yet - to preempt potentially problematic encounters that could happen in the future.
• Energy Scaling has many far reaching benefits. It can enable you to improve your relationships with family members, avoid conflicts in a work environment, and bring meaning and a sense of ease to dating situations.

“I scale whenever I feel confused or hesitant because that simple process seems to yield many more answers than anything else. When I scale, I am able to find the answers that I am looking for about most situations.”

“I experimented with using energy scaling during a dance and discovered that when I was scaling I was usually instantly asked to dance.”

“I find it interesting how many people there are who, like me, live their lives unaware of what surrounds them, and of how much they can personally affect the outcome of their interactions. When I practice scaling, it allows me to gather myself. It forces me to be quiet so that I could become more aware of the energy patterns, to fully understand the situations and to know how to proceed. This exercise has made me more aware and more functional in a society as a whole person.

6. Energetic Transference

Transference is a reversal of energetic flow in an interaction that triggers a significant loss of energy and sense of self due to over-investment, trying too hard, or to disempowerment.

Probably the most common case of energetic transference happens when you sincerely desire to offer help and healing to others. It can happen whenever we feel that we have to help others, heal them, explain something very important that they need to understand, no matter what it takes, otherwise they will be lost. Transference also can be triggered in personal or business relationships by needing someone else’s approval, or needing to be liked. Getting pulled into some one’s personal trauma can also trigger transference. Such emotional entanglement can be particularly challenging, since in such cases we stop being concerned with our own well being as we become over invested in saving the other person. Transference can also happened in any uncomfortable situations where you are energetically compromised, such as inappropriate sexual behavior that may take place in a social or work situation.

The key issue with transference is to be aware of what is going on. The problem is that at the moment of the event we usually do not see that it is actually taking place. Most of the time we are not clear what is true for us a in a given situation – our true needs and our true limitations. Therefore we don’t understand that our energetic space is being compromised. You need to learn to recognize the transference situations, know what is happening, to be able to stop it right at that moment and pull yourself energetically out of it. Moreover, it is much less important at that point to understand what is going on with the other person – why are they doing what they are doing or why they are behaving in a particular way. Figuring out the nature of the situation can happen later. Once you have recovered and disengaged from the situation, you will be able to see more clearly and gain a deeper understanding of the interaction, and you can become even more effective in stopping and recovering from transference in the future.

You need to reach a place in your life where you are not as invested in an outcome of your interaction with others, especially with people you are in a relationship with and your patients. You also cannot make other people like you or be with you according to your needs. We need to remember that for others and for ourselves, life is always an individual journey, where everything happens in its own time.

What can you gain from mastering Energetic Transference process?

• Understand your own needs and dependencies that may trigger transference.
• Clearly set up both internal and external ground rules and limitations that reflect the truth of who you are, and are based on recognition of your needs and vulnerabilities.
• Recognize flow imbalance in a transference situation.
• Recover from instances of energetic transference by learning proper procedures for disconnecting and recovering energy in transference situations.
• Identify issues for future personal learning.

“It is great to be aware of the process of energetic transference, since it happens all the time, and not only with myself, but with other people around me as well. I find that now I am much more aware of people who drain others, who they are and what they are doing. It is incredible to be able to watch people who just want to take your energy, as well as, watch those people who depend on others in order to survive. I find that I get sucked into situations with them by over investing myself when I get energetically entangled with people's stories. Energetic Transference process allows me to be better at recognizing when it happens and to be able to stop myself. I also got to know my limitations better, how not to treat people when I am exhausted or even a little sick, because then my energy field is diminished which makes my guards go down and I can be sucked dry very quickly.”

7. Energetic Absorption

Living organisms must absorb all the time. Cells communicate with other cells. When this communication stops, the cells die. Plants are absorbing continuously to survive. They draw water, as well as absorb light and carbon dioxide. In general, this process does not stop because the neighboring plant happens to have a different shape or color.

People do not absorb in the same way. We put limits on our interactions with others. If other people do not share our social standing, or tastes in art, or cultural values, or a belief system etc, we refuse to deal with them by shutting ourselves down, and refusing to interact. Recent research indicates that people with a wide range of varied social contacts have better immune function.

The energy field as an electromagnetic field naturally has a gravitational pull to bring energies in. When that natural pull is suppressed, our life-sustaining force is clamped down, which leads to internal destruction of the immune system. The current epidemic of chronic immune-related conditions is a direct cause of our inability to absorb.

The Energetic Absorption mechanism will teach you how use your energy field as a vehicle of transformation of incoming energies into energies that your body can utilize.

As soon as the incoming energy crosses the Energetic Boundary membrane, it is filtered by your energy field to remove all that is not useful. The rest of the energy gets modulated as it moves further towards the core, till it becomes organically assimilated by the body according to its needs and ultimately is not recognized as foreign any longer. The modulated energy is then further absorbed through the cells of the physical body and is held both in the cells and in the energy field. Ultimately, everything that one’s body absorbs needs to resonate with that person's uniqueness.

The ability to exchange energetically with others provides life-giving benefits. It enables you to:

• Absorb fully, to overflow and without fear of being changed or compromised.
• Increase emotional and physical energy when we are in diminished states by learning how to absorb and maintain energy that is generous and abundant.
• Prevent burnout, by learning how to take care of others without being drained.
• Clear traumatic memories held in the cells and the energy field and replace them with the energies that your body craves.
• Evolve personally by acquiring energetically new qualities from a variety of sources – nature, animals, friends or stranger, past memories, and even generating directly the qualities you need for your healing and well being.

“I find that at times I can absorb detrimental qualities from certain people and not be aware of the fact that I am doing it. I feel that one of the benefits of this exercise is to be able to recognize when you are taking in something detrimental to you and be able to stop absorbing what you do not need because it may be an unhealthy situation. Instead, if in any situation you keep absorbing what you need from a person you are dealing with, then everyone becomes a source of energy.”

“I am a sufferer of low back pain ever since I had a minor lifting injury at my job last year. Most of the time it is mild to moderate in intensity but there are times when it is so intense (and radiates down both legs) that it distracts me from my life and screams for attention. Acupuncture, massage, herbs have all had some short-term beneficial effect but the effect is limited and often I need to resort to large amounts of ibuprofen and restrict my activity. Last week the pain was pretty intense so I decided to try to utilize the power of Absorption to make myself more comfortable. I sat in a chair, centered myself in my energetic field and used the Energetic Absorption mechanism to generate and absorb natural painkillers in my body. I felt immediately how my every cell, every nerve ending was bathed with soothing, calming, peaceful relief. As I went about my life for the next two hours after that, the only distraction that remained was the fact that for the first time in many months, I was not in pain.

The fact that absorption was able to provide me with relief for even a single minute is amazing to me. What it shows me is that healing is available to me (to all of us) just by taking time from my own personal dramas to stop and tap into it.”